Resources

“Grieving a Death During the Pandemic”  MPR Interview with Ted Bowman, Rev. Ron Bell, and Rabbi Marcia Zimmerman

https://www.mprnews.org/episode/2021/11/04/grieving-a-death-during-the-pandemic

 

Some Guidelines for Grief Care During the Coronavirus Outbreak

1) Monitor your own health and follow health department guidelines
2) Check-in on some of your family and friends during these days, even some with whom you have not recently connected. Say something like, hello, just sending my care during these days.
3) Practice differing ways of grief care during these days. Consider adding other care practices because so many typical outlets may be unavailable, cancelled, or unwise for health reasons. Consider: music, prayer, pray for others, get outside if your own health permits, take notice of small pleasures (cup of tea or coffee, sun coming through your window, an hour of quiet, complete a small task, comfort food, talk to a friend via phone, write a note, remember with tears and smiles someone who has died.
4) Review recent Downtown Grief Coalition sessions: what did someone say in a group that you want to “hang onto” and use today…or something one of the speakers said that was helpful.
5) What advice would you give to another grieving person? In other words, if you were the speaker, what would you say to fellow grievers?
6) Be aware of what is not canceled because of the coronavirus, including:
Getting Outdoors: NOT CANCELED
Music: NOT CANCELED
Family: NOT CANCELED
Reading: NOT CANCELED
Singing: NOT CANCELED
Taxes: NOT CANCELED
Laughing: NOT CANCELED
Hope: NOT CANCELED
Let’s Embrace What We Have.
7) Whatever your beliefs are, lean on the best of them these days. Know that nothing separates us from God’s love.

 

Our Response to Trauma
From Jennifer Yaeger, licensed professional counselor and the owner and clinical director of Sea Glass Therapy in Newnan, Georgia

Living through this pandemic is a trauma, and parts of our brain have shut down as a coping mechanism. With our brain’s response to the trauma, we are not able to fully process what is going on around us. This may lead to feeling numb, out of touch with emotions, anxious or depressed. Additionally, our brains are wired to use past experiences to help us predict what will happen next. During this time, as the word navigates the uncertainty of COVID 19, our brains are unable to pull from past experiences to make sense of it all. This is new for all of us and we don’t have past experience to rely on.

 Here are some tips to help you handle the uncertainty and anxiety:
1) Be patient and kind with yourself when you are feeling down.
2) Have empathy for others who may be struggling and may not always be their best selves right now – my personal favorite. We need to give each other grace in these difficult times.
3) Name it. If you’re feeling sad, down, nervous, angry …. say it, express it!
4) Don’t fight what you feel. Give yourself a time limit and for that time limit embrace how you’re feeling and then do your best to move on.
5) Try something new. Prepare a recipe, take a walk, meditate or breath.
6) Bring something back. We all have things that we used to do that we loved that we lost time for along the way – bring it back. This is a great way to relax and can lift our spirits


Jenny Schroedel—Grief and COVID-19 https://youtu.be/T2quYkhQCjY

 

Ted Bowman—Grief and COVID-19
https://youtu.be/a-bHGrqfD54

 

TEDTalk – Minneapolis author Nora McInerny

 

Harvard Business Review article-Grief and the pandemic

https://hbr.org/2020/03/that-discomfort-youre-feeling-is-grief?utm_source=facebook&utm_campaign=hbr&utm_medium=social&fbclid=IwAR3OUetDCGgYqhXrnrmjEZblVulRjzP0T1TqhnWRBEOdddlbk7ypid8i1RI